How do you feel when no one ousted from the bicycle, fall in a muddy, eh still ketiban bike, but people around him laughed, and some even nyukurin. If that scene slapstick (physical jokes) kind of comedy film Home Alone, Baby's Days Out or Warkop okay if you follow laughed. But if that's a real incident, we suggest you first think-thinkers with a healthy and ... do not laugh. If you still laugh then maybe you are one that is not easy to empathize with others.

What is empathy? According to Daniel Goleman's book Emotional Intelligence, empathy is the ability to understand and also feel the feelings of others. Is this important? Yes, very important. In association if we can not empathize with others, so it is probable that other people will not associate ourselves with our home. How not? Lha wong something bad happens to us when they are actually happy, and when they are happy we got the sad (because of envy.) Any human being, certainly want to be friends with someone who can be happy and especially sad together. Like the proverb says, bear the same weight, same lightweight portable. Not only light carry, if heavy Elu chased the bear alone the same dog. How smart we empathize with others, then that's as far as we can become a good friend for someone else.

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Important is we empathize with others? Yes is the answer. Empathy is the embodiment of human affection. Imagine if the world's no sense of empathy, there can be no friendship, kinship, affection, love and justice. We will grow into a man of rigid, strict, intolerant, even violent.

When other people suffer us laugh, when others make mistakes then there is no apology for him. And the leaders will be the ones who likes to iron-handed rule without care about the fate of his people. Do not we hate on someone who does not want to bother with other people's business? Especially at the leaders who do not care on those they lead.

One time my friend made a mistake on his boss at work. Superiors indiscriminately cursing my friend in the middle of the market, witnessed by many people. You can imagine how embarrassed and hurt my friend. That is an example of a leader who does not have empathy for people who lead.

Surely empathy is not just good for the size of humans, but also well-regarded by the religion. Even this is more mainstream. Yup, what we do best when viewed poorly by the Almighty. We instill empathy is not other as part of akhlakul karimah adorn themselves with, keep the commandments of religion.

Messenger of Allah. is well-known people have high empathy. If he became a priest prays, he shortened his reading when he heard cries of a child who whines to his mother, and if you know in congregational prayers there are old people. He was also reprimanded Mu'adh ibn Jabal ra complained of many people because it is always read long letters in every prayer congregation. When she heard an elderly black woman who used to sweep the mosque had died, he was stunned. "Why do not you tell me?" He said on the friends. Beliaupun perform two cycles of supernatural prayer for her. Is not it beautiful?

He saw. also known as someone who likes to glorify others. When there are people who are late into the Majlis, he asked that his other companions shifted their seats, giving the opportunity for a late. Several times the Prophet. do not hesitate to open his turban and make it as a base to sit the friends who came late.

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Empathy was his form at large. Not jealous of the success of others also shape our empathy in a person. When your sister to the next grade with satisfactory value, then ortumu rewarded the latest Nike shoes, turutlah feel happy. Do not even so juthek. If that's you doing it in front of the eyes of God you are a noble people because it is very tolerant, intelligent grateful, and not envy.

When you see the television, staring eyes of Iraqi children emaciated, starving savages from the U.S. and the UN embargo, and your heart sank, ghirah ukhuwah touched you, be thankful because it means you have empathy.

If people in the West there kinds of Daniel Goleman and Patricia Patton new study of empathy in this century, the Muslims already know that nearly 14 centuries ago. Consider just the sound of this hadith: "The right of Muslims over Muslims there, said hello, praying to the person who sneezes, said the invitation, visited the sick and accompany the corpse"

Now let us ask ourselves: when was the last time we visit our friend who is sick? Do we ever pray for our fellow comrades in goodness? When was the last time we advise our friend?

Funny thing is, we almost always have a good excuse to do it all. We can tell him, "Sorry I'm busy at that time, you please understand." Or maybe we could tell her when she was sad when we did not visit her when have bad days, "he does not cook can understand my activities." Oh, really our actions? Not. Because we do not know how her circumstances. People who are having bad days it is often fragile, reason could be clogged, so he takes us there by his side. Although just to pat his shoulder or say the word, "be patient" with him. It is fresh air to his chest heaving.

Insha Allah is not difficult to empathize with others. Technology has helped us to do good to others. There is a letter, telephone, mobile phone, sms, email and even we can insert various emoticons us to show how empathy We Are A

The above hadith if we resume practicing in daily life, guaranteed to strengthen our relationships with those around us: parents, siblings, friends and neighbors. We will never feel alone because there will always be people who accompany us in when overwhelmed with grief. That is why the famous Islamic teachings filled with peace and safety. In one verse of the Qur'an Allah called the characteristics of the Muslims as, "love of neighbor," (Al-Fath [49]: 29). Want us to include this class of it?

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Empathy should not be interpreted as strings attached, but it must come from the heart. Sincerity is our hearts that will determine the quality of our reward in the presence of Allah SWT. Thus empathy is not intended to simply please others, or that we considered good by others. No to that. But the kindness that we do - in this case empathy - intended as a charity advocated by religious piety. Ridlo God is our purpose in charity. Do not worry, every kindness that we are doing will certainly reap the benefit as well.

So, be empathetic attitude right now. Give care and attention on those around us, whether we know or who have not, for goodness will make everyone become friends. Visit your friend is sick, he console. If not had time to send letters, sms, or Leave greet people who visit it.

If you're a leader, assume that your friends lead as friends, not subordinates especially houseboy. Respect them and give them tasks according to their abilities. That is empathy a leader on the people they lead.